Preparing to be a Help Meet--Chapter 6--Three Types of Women

Read Chapter 5 HERE; Start at the beginning HERE.

[This was an extensive chapter; hence the longer "summary"]

Chapter Summary "Eve (and by extension, every woman) was created to fulfill a need in the man...she was created to be a blessing and help to Adam." To be a good, lovely help meet (one that is easy to love) takes lots of effort.

There are 3 types of women:

• Dreamer Gals
• Servant Girls
• Go-To Gals

Dreamer Gals often like to create, sew, design, paint, or write. They also might get antsy when things don't happen as quickly as they think it should. It is important that these gals don't get caught up in projects that distract them from honoring and helping their husbands. These gals should spend their youth mastering their gifts and skills; so that they can one day bring honor to their husbands through them without taking away from their roles as a help meet to their husband.

The Servant Girl is someone who enjoys being just that--a servant to others. It is important that they maintain their individuality and develop their gifts. Be an Encourager (someone who helps other to better themselves), not an Enabler (doing things for others that they should be doing for themselves). Look for a vision and a purpose that is bigger than yourself for which you can strive towards. Prayer will be important on your journey. Two Scriptural examples of servant-types are Jesus and Ruth.

The Go-to Gal knows her place as a wife, but is also strong, capable, and gives a sense of caring for the greater number of people. They are well at organizing and have strong opinions. Be cautious in your confidence. In Scripture, Deborah of Judges 4 is an example of a Go-to Gal; she was a judge in Israel.

No matter your personal "type", "power struggles still arise [in marriages[ especially when a girl has not been taught what God says concerning honoring her husband."

So why did God put men in charge? Well, He knew what he was doing... [the book explains this further by talking about men's nature and women's nature and how they need to blend together.]

Women were created to help and each woman/girl was created to suit a man's needs. 1 Corinthians 11:8-9 says, "For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." The first command God gave to Eve was "Your desire shall be unto your husband, and he shall rule over you." (Genesis 3:16) Want to know more about the role of a woman in relation to her husband? Read 1 Corinthians 11:3, 7-9 and Ephesians 5:23, 32-33.

Debi Pearl says, "A wife's position under her husband is where God put her for her own spiritual, emotional, and physical safety." [Ladies, I have experienced needing my husband for ALL of these; some more than others.]

Two genders were created to create the complete picture of the person God wants us to be and to bring balance as a couple in the struggles of life. It is no mystery that "opposites attract". Debi Pearl goes on to talk about how to spot a Prophet-type man, a Priest-type man, and a Kingly-type man. You will have to read the book for yourself to know about that.

"In the end it is not so much what type you are as whether or not you are willing to place his talents and ambitions first and then utilize your gifts to assist him...a good woman serving him will bring out the MAN in him."

Moral of the Story

Learn and live well.

Caution!!

Stubbornness shuts the door on understanding.

Your Treasure Chest

• Could you serve a King?
• Seek God for the wisdom you will need to help him be all that God would have him be.
• Write these verses in your notebook and on the pages of your heart: 1 Peter 3:1-8.
• Explain what "let it be the hidden man of the heart" means.

My Challenge to You

• Rather than pray for what you need or want in a man, pray that the Lord will help you to become the type of woman that a good man will need to help him in all things.
• Do you know what type of man your father is (Prophet, Priest, King)?
• What type are you?
• Do you have a friend that is a Dreamer?
• Have you ever been irritated at some other girl because of her type?
• From what you have read [in the book], what type of man would you compliment the most with your gifts? [This is not talking about the type of man you dream or wish to marry.]
•  If you are a Servant Girl who marries a King, what must you learn to do in order to have a heavenly marriage? Read about Queen Esther in the Bible; a Servant Girl who married a King [for real & his type]
• If you are a Go-To Gal or Dreamer Gal who marries a King-type, what must you learn to do in order to have a heavenly marriage?
• Depending on the type of person you are, think about what you would need to learn in order to marry a Prophet-type or Priest-type man.
• Remember that the goal is to honor your husband and to live the role God has designed for you as a wife.
• Read 1 Timothy 4:12
• Look around at different couples that you see who are happily raising a family and ministering to other people. What are their types? How do they function as a team? Learn from their success. Notice how they respond to each other and other little things about them that bring forth good fruit.
• Look at couples who don't seem to have good balance. Learn what you don't want from them.
• Do a word study on the word knowledge.